Thursday, April 26, 2018

Educated: Book Review







Educated
By Tara Westover
Digital Copy from Netgalley





What a inspiration. Anyone who is a scholar, educator, or believes in education will be amazed how this little girl had no education.

 Her brother, Tyler encouraged her to self teach herself. The family didn’t believe in education.  The only way to get out of the house was to prepare for the tests. Hopefully get herself to college.]

Because how the family lived. The only thing they could look forward to was a hard life. She didn’t want to be a stay at home mother, pregnant and barefoot. But, what obstacles at home to get through. Unfortunately, she was isolated from the rest of the world. The education she learned from home. Was learned from her parents, and the environment   But, often times because she was off the grid. She had a difficult time fitting in. Intellectually, and common sense. Eventually she did get by. 


When she went to college the other students at Cambridge. Either thought she was stupid, or was playing dumb. They thought she was either anti-Semitic, because she didn’t know what the Holocaust was, or even Civil Rights Movement.Unfortunately since she was born. Her father believed the government is evil. Her father Didn’t believe in medical help when several accidents occurred. Her brother trying to kill her. -Think of Ruby Ridge. She still earned her PHd at Cambridge. I was rooting for her all the way. While I was reading, Educated.

She had a terrible upbringing. She was unable to attend school. The family owned a Junk Yard. It had dangerous scraps around the yard.  The machinery they used were archaic, and unsafe. There weren’t any safety equipment, or safety helmets. They had to empty gasoline from old engines. Drain them before it could be compressed, and compacted-Very dangerous. Her Brother was terribly injured, as well as the father. 

Her father was very paranoid. Thought the government would lock them up. Her father believed the world was coming to the end. Her father didn’t safeguard them, or protect them. So, if they were against government you can’t imagine what happened to the family. Many accidents. Unfortunately the father was determined never to take him, or his children to the hospital when there were minor accidents, and major accidents.  Tara was hurt many times. Instead of going to the hospital. They would go home to their Mom to give them herbal mixtures.

Her mother became involved with Midwifery, and herbal mixtures. There is plenty of inconsistencies. At times Tara wrote that they had a TV and radio. Or some of the brothers and sisters did go to school, but she didn’t. Then other times not. There is plenty of times in the book she questions her memories.

Once, Tara went to Cambridge everything changed. She learned that not everything her father told her was true. He made up lies, tried to prove conspiracy theories. The family ties became strained. Especially when confronted the problems with Shawn( her abusive brother).

Shawn, once got hurt many times. From the first accident you could see a change in his mood and behavior. From the second, and third accident he’s behavior got worse. Tara didn’t know how to deal with her brother. He could be combative, nasty, aggressive. The entire family would turn a blind’s eye to his cruelty. She was considered a “Whore” by her brother Shawn.

I recommend it highly. The writing style makes it an easy read. But really, it is not an easy book to read because of the hard life she, and her family lead. As I’m reading. It is playing as a movie through my head. Once, you get beyond that. I think you will be able to read it. Recommend seeing the documentary, Ruby Ridge.5 cups

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Hacks: Book Review



Hacks
By Donna Brazile
My own copy

Boy, Hacks was an eye opener. I didn’t know what shenanigans has been going on in politics. What an eye opener. I never cared about politics until the 2016 Presidential elections. The author writes likes she is having coffee  at the coffee table having a discussion with you. I would love to meet her some day. She is some tough cookie. But she at sometime has a breaking point. I felt like as she was talking all warm, and snugly inside. It could have been the writing style.
The one main thing that concerns me. Hilary Clinton donated money to the Dem party. What this did. Which is not illegal, just unethical. Bernie Sanders didn’t get any help. Instead Hilary Clinton got all the resources and monies she needed before the primary.
That isn’t usually done till the primaries are done. This is not what happened instead. She got all the resources ahead of time.
I am not educated in politics until now. I didn’t know the in’s and out’s of the political process. It makes sense to statistical polls and take them for granted how things were done. The Dem party took it for granted. What happened HC didn’t go to the districts because they thought she would win. Wrong decision by Robby Mooks.
The biggest as we all know is someone got in and tempered with the Democratic party systems. We found out later it was Russia. The hackers name was Cozy Bear, and one other name I can’t remember. It was found out they entered the systems quite awhile ago. The FBI contacted the Democratic Party. The person they contacted thought it was a joke. I m not going to go into it. As there is so much technical terms. But, eventually they were found out. Eventually right before the elections they were able to find out what happened. But, by then it was too late.
Two other things are talked about in the book. What emails were mailed to the author. Did she have the questions ahead of time? I can’t say. There is no evidence of her email. Her answer to me answers what happened. But, I am not an expert.
The other was Bernie Sanders when the emails were leaked from the DNC. Were there derogatory emails dumped?Were some of them real? Or were they fake? Who knows.
The other terrible thing happened to Seth Rich a young man who was murdered from the DNC party. Was he murdered because of random killing? or did it have something to do with what was going on in the DNC. I don’t think we will ever know. There was alot of paranoia going on. People were scared and nervous that people’s homes are being bugged. Or in the office a person came in watering plants for the DNC office. Who was she no one knows.
It was a terrible thing that happened. The good thing is that American Citizens including me are getting involved. Where they weren’t involved before. Citizens are becoming active. There are Marches, and people speaking out. So perhaps something good has come out of this.
I am angry how this played out. I am not writing as a Dem. or GOP. What I am angry about nothing has been done to the Russians. This should concern every American. The Russian’s interfered in our elections, Period. I don’t care what side you are on. What is going to happen this Nov’ 18, or presidential elections 2020! It could happen again. How do we know our process will be protected.
Some people are angry that she wrote this book. People thought it was against the DNC. The author says, it is her explanation of why, and what happened. To make sure nothing like this happens again.  I liked how she ended the book. With optimism, and hope. I would like to thank Donna Brazile for her version of what happened.

Review: Lillian Boxfish Takes A Walk



Lillian Boxfish Takes A Walk
By Kathleen Rooney
Copy given from St. Martin



We meet Lillian Boxfish on New Year’s Eve, 1984. Who is Lillian Boxfish? She was the most well paid, woman, copy writer, in advertising in the 1930’s. She worked for R. H. Macy in NYC. When we meet Lillian, she is retired at the age of 85 years old. She lives alone, with her cat. Her son is married and lives far away from her. She has decided she wants to walk the city to bring in the new year.  While she is walking every stop. She reminisces about her life and each different stop.
The publisher put in the front and the back of the book the different stops she made. I didn’t particularly like the map that was illustrated.  Since I lived in NYC. I would have preferred a real map that showed the different landmarks.
FYI- Lillian Boxfish is Margaret Fishback the real life person. You can look who she is here.
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I may have gotten a different perspective of the novel.  I graduated nursing school in 1985 in NJ. I used to commute to the city until I was able to move into the nursing dorms at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital. I could identify with the landmarks, where Lillian walked. I remember walking during Christmas time in NYC. The beautiful Christmas decorations in the store fronts. The Christmas tree in Rockefeller Center. This brings back memories.
Remembering what it was like in 1984. The Mayor of NYC was Ed Koch. He was responsible for the clean up of NYC crime. The killings, muggings, dirty subways, and dirty streets of NYC. He was making a commitment to clean up the city. No more prostitutes, window washers on the corner.
In the novel, Katherine Rooney, uses Lillian’s son to talk about the crimes, and conditions of the city. Just think about it, is it realistic for a 85 year old woman to walk to streets anywhere now a days, especially the city, in NY. Her son is very worried about her. Walking the streets of the city. Be realistic, “Are you crazy, Lillian”. I don’t know what possessed her to walk the streets. I remember in 1984, I was 26. I was nervous walking the streets. Even when I was near the hospital, on the subway, on the bus, at night.
There were several  favorite parts of the novel that was touching.  I am not going to tell you too much. Just tell you she made a couple generous gestures to people. That made you feel good, and fussy inside. When she meets Wendy. A young woman. How they become friendly with each other. Even though, they are different ages.
I just loved the whole story. What is was like when she was young, and her marriage, and her troubles. Which I don’t want to go into. I don’t want to ruin it for y’all. I will say, I could feel the sights, sounds, smells, of the city. This is a charming, feel good novel, that is “unputdownable”. It is a book you want to hug, and not let go. It has so much warmth, and charm. This book is a keeper. I would top this with Golem and the Jinni. One of my favorites of all time.
I came out of this with aging, connecting with the younger crowd( perhaps because I am middle age), nostalgia, aging. The novel is so unique, and different.
Originally I got the book for a giveaway for our literary event from the publisher. Each year, the Moveable Feast does a book review before the Christmas holidays. The presenter was raving about Lillian Boxfish Takes A Walk. I am so glad I found out about the novel.
Thank you St. Martin for the copy to review. I am looking forward for our book discussion in two weeks. Even better, next month Katherine Rooney is coming to the Moveable Feast next month. It has been arranged for our book club to sit at our table. I am very excited to finally meet her.
I highly recommend.
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Interview: Kathleen Rooney: Lillian Boxfish Takes A Walk


katherine Rooney

Hi Kathleen! I am excited to meet you. Are you looking forward to coming South to SC next week? Our book club is so excited because the organizer is having you sit with our book club. We can’t wait to hear about Lillian and her adventures, her life, and her work in NYC.  She was a gutsy lady!


Where did you get your inspiration for the novel, Lillian Boxfish?
KR: The dedication of the book is in part to “Angela, my archivist always.” That refers to my high school best friend without whom I would never have come across the inspiration for this novel. She was getting her Library Science degree at UNC—Chapel Hill and had an internship at Duke University at the Hartman Center for Sales, Advertising & Marketing History where she got to be the first archivist to work with the papers of Margaret Fishback, the real-life highest paid advertising copywriter in America in the 1930s. Thanks to her, I got to be the first non-archivist to work with the Fishback materials, an unforgettable experience that ultimately led me to write this book based on her biography and achievements.
Did you mean to write a story about old age and memory? You are so young, I am just wondering where and how the story developed? You as a young person, I wouldn’t think you would be so wise in your young years to write a story about old age, and memory.
KR: The other part of the book’s dedication is to “Eric, forever my favorite flâneur.” That refers to my DePaul University friend and colleague with whom I take long, drifting walks through the city of Chicago. In order to make a compelling novel out of the Fishback material, I knew I needed to find some way to fictionalize her story, and walking became the key to that. It took me years of contemplating the archival material before my own lifelong love of walking paired with my habit of Chicago walks made me realize that a New Year’s Eve stroll around Manhattan would give Lillian the occasion she needed to look back from her old age of 85 years and meditate on her memories of her life in the city she had known and loved for almost six decades. I’m so glad to hear you found Lillian’s wisdom as an octogenarian convincing because one of my chief goals with the story, even though I’m only in my 30s, was to create a believable older voice.
Did you live in NYC? The story really had the sights, sounds, and smells of the city. But, the only thing I felt that you missed were the vendors at the corner of each block.  Here is a useful link of a map. I wish I had seen it before reading the book.
KR: Thanks! Especially because I know you lived in New York, your compliment is much appreciated. But nope: I never lived there. It was all historical research and the occasional trip to the Manhattan over the years. New York is one of my favorite cities to walk around and I also love the food vendors—I couldn’t find a way to work them in, sadly, because it didn’t seem plausible to me that Lillian would run into a lot on New Year’s Eve, so the best I could do was C.J. the bodega clerk, who was a character I liked inventing.
The story is very inspirational for the ” me too” movement, it is so timely with everything that is going on right now. What do you think Lillian Boxfish would say about the me too movement, and the feminist movement? She was such a gutsy lady. What would Lillian say today to the young ladies of today? What do you think your message is to the me too movement of today? What does memory say about Lillian? And her past? What our culture is like today?
KR: Lillian would absolutely be a supporter of the #MeToo movement and of feminism in general. I put the scene where she confronts her boss, Chester, for equal pay into the book because it seemed true to her no-nonsense outlook and to her sense of justice, first and foremost, but also because those issues are ones that I think about a lot personally and I wanted to show that the struggles women are going through today are connected to the ones they went through in the past. We’ve come so far, but we still have so far to go.
To the young ladies of today, Lillian would say: don’t underestimate yourselves and don’t let anyone convince you that you deserve substandard treatment, reduced compensation, or fewer opportunities because you happen to be a woman. I think she would also advise the young women of today’s feminist movement to keep fighting the good fight, and to fight it on all fronts: keep working for equal pay and an end to sexual harassment and assault, but also work intersectionally with women of all different racial and class backgrounds for bigger systemic and institutional fixes, including paid parental leave and free childcare.
One of the things that broke my heart in my research about the real-life inspiration, Margaret Fishback, was that she was forced to leave her job when she and her husband announced that she was pregnant, a policy that was standard at the time. I put that episode—being made to leave a career that you love and are immensely talented at for an arbitrary and unfair reason—in the book to be accurate, but also to show that sadly, things are not so tremendously different today. But the thing is, they could be. We all deserve better. If women get more chances and support, then all of society benefits.
The book is very light reading, but there were messages that were conveyed, what message was Lillian trying to convey?
KR: For fiction to be absorbing, it has to be a pleasure to read—in some sense, it must be entertaining above all. So I did my best to make Lillian someone you’d be delighted to listen to. But then in addition to entertainment, good fiction can also teach the reader something. So some of the ideas I hope Lillian helps my readers learn or think about is how civility is so important to creating a culture that treats all its members with compassion and respect. Lillian believes in good manners not because she’s some stickler for etiquette; she doesn’t care if you use the right fork. What she does want to do is treat everyone, no matter who they are or where they come from, with kindness and interest—everyone she meets, she greets with an openness and a willingness to listen. It can seem like a cliché, but if you truly treat people the way you would want to be treated, more often than not, you discover that they treat you well in return and you can have a wonderful conversation.
Do you think this story could have taken place in any city, or why NYC did you pick particularly?
KR: The only city this book could have been set in is New York. The advertising industry that Lillian (and her real life inspiration, Margaret) worked in, departmental advertising for the department store R.H. Macy’s, was headquartered in Herald Square, so that’s where she had to be. Plus, I wanted the book to be a sweeping catalogue of much of the twentieth century, and New York played a pivotal role in so many of that century’s defining incidents. Finally, I wanted to have the Bernhard Goetz / Subway Vigilante shootings playing in the background, and those happened in New York in 1984. Part of what I hope the reader finds impressive about Lillian is her courage and her refusal to abandon the city she loves out of fear, and I needed to emphasize just how threatening New York City had come to feel to many people by the early 1980s.
What research did you do before writing the book? I am surprised how much you knew about the city life, the crime, the culture of NYC.
KR: Research is my most beloved phase of any project and I did so much for Lillian. Besides all the archival materials from Margaret, I read exhaustively about the history of the city and also in books that were not just about but specificallyfrom the time periods (the 1920s through the 1980s) so I could get a sense of how people thought and spoke over the eras.
Was it difficult to go from poetry to writing a novel? What is your writing process? Was it different because you were a poet?
KR: Lillian Boxfish is actually my second novel, with the first being O, Democracy!, a political comedy, and I have a few prose nonfiction books as well, including Reading With Oprah: The Book Club that Changed Americaand Live Nude Girl: My Life as an Objectabout being an artist’s model. So while poetry is my first love, I also am quite fond of writing prose. But I do think that novels are, for me, the hardest genre, simply because there’s so much to hold in your head for such a long period of time: all these imagined people and their imagined lives and surroundings! It helped that Lillian as a character is, herself, a light-verse poet. One of the coolest things about writing this book was imagining how someone like with such an astonishing vocabulary and sense of rhythm and rhyme would have thought and talked.
Lillian is such a character with a lot of wit, did you have someone in mind while writing about Lillian’s character?
KR: Thank you. Wit is one of my favorite traits in a person and it was important to me that Lillian be witty. So often, you hear people (foolish people) say that women are not as funny as men, and that’s clearly ridiculous. Women can be hilarious. Margaret, the woman Lillian was based on, is in fact the person who pioneered the use of comedy in advertising. Before she revolutionized the industry, ads tended to be sober and self-serious. As models for Lillian, besides Margaret herself, I looked at the poet and writer Dorothy Parker, one of the wittiest women who ever lived, and also Jane Jacobs, author of The Death and Life of Great American Cities.
Were you trying to show older citizens still have something to share with younger society? Just because she was old doesn’t mean she doesn’t have something to contribute along the people she met along the way.
KR: Absolutely. I’ve always found myself drawn to older people for their life experiences and perspectives. And I was thinking, as I wrote this, about how old women especially tend to find themselves dismissed and erased—treated as invisible, really. I wanted to give visibility to that group of people because they have so much to offer, if people would just listen.
Is there anything that you want to say to the older generation reading this book? Were you speaking possibly to your grandmother, or listening to her voice while writing this book?
KR: Both of my grandmothers were fascinating and influential women to me, so I certainly had them in mind. In addition, I had my Great Aunt Georgi, my grandfather’s sister, in my head as I built Lillian. She was a smart, funny, kind and giving lady who never married, which was very rare for her era, but who nevertheless lived a fun and fascinating life. I loved seeing her whenever we’d visit Nebraska at Christmas and in the summertime. She was always respectful of other people but lived life independently and on her own terms and I will never cease to admire her for that; I’m grateful to her for being a sterling role model.
Is there anything else that you would like to share with me and my book blog readers?
KR: As a college professor at DePaul University and as a book reviewer for the Chicago Tribune, I like to recommend books both to my students and to general readers. So I’ll end by recommending two books I read recently that I really enjoyed and think that your blog followers might as well: first, the recently reissued classic novel from 1980 by the Canadian writer Helen Weinzweig, Basic Black with Pearls, a strange and funny feminist sort-of spy novel. And second, the just-released graphic memoir We Ate Wonder Bread; it’s a coming-of-age memoir about growing up on the West Side of Chicago by the feminist cartoonist Nicole Hollander, creator of the comic strip Sylvia.
Also Kathleen told me something interested. Here is the link to something interested about Kathleen, a B &B for publishers.Check it out. You should scroll down till you find her name.
Thank you Kathleen for stopping by. This was alot of fun! I had a wonderful time chatting with you. Wishing you a safe, and fun trip to Myrtle Beach. Unfortunately this year is still cool. This year we have unusual weather. I hope by the time you arrive it will be warmer. Happy Trails!
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Thursday, April 19, 2018

Susie Does It Again- Old Post



Add another one to Susie Fishbein's cook book series. Kosher By Design, Passover By Design, Kosher by Design Entertains, Kosher by Design, Short on Time, Kosher by Design; Kids in the Kitchen.
This time her cook book is on healthy recipes. Her new cook book is called Kosher By Design; Lighten Up. Also in this edition she has a dietician that gives advise on foods to eat that are good for you and foods to be careful with.
She has it broken down. What flours, Fish, Grains, Oils, Sugars, Seeds and Nuts, are healthy for you and what it can do for your food intake. For instance brown rice vs. white rice. Did you know sunflower seeds are a good source of vitamin C, and contains antioxidants, and vit. E. Gives you advise on gadgets to have in the kitchen, entertaining ideas which gave me a few ideas for my next temple function.
I was a Sisterhood Programming Chairman for our Shul for the past two years. Too bad this cookbook did not come out till now. Boy, I could have used this a year ago.

The recipes some of them are easy to follow to complex. There is a recipe for Honey Oat Challah. What I liked was that it gives healthy advise why whole grains are important to your body. Did you know that people that eat whole grains are less likely to develop Diabetes Yype 2, and less chance to become obese. Very interesting.
Some of the recipes I did try White Portobello Pizzas, Thai Chicken Soup( my son is 18 yrs. Old). my son was the Guinea pig and loved how they came out. Some of the recipes are good for the whole family. Other recipes are for entertaining and less for the family dinners.

The Photographs of the final products are just beautiful. She really knows how to make a nice presentation. They are mouthwatering recipes.

Old Post-People of the Book Giveaway


I am going to make this a easy giveaway.
I have two copies of the book,People of the Book by Geraldine Brooks to giveaway on both of my blogs.
You have one chance if you leave a comment on this blog, if you leave a comment on both blogs you have two chances. The contest starts tomorrow and will last till February 2nd, in honor of my b-day.
The books were sent to me courtesy from Julie Harbedian of FSBA Associates.

This is a wonderful book. Many people are comparing this to the Davinci code.
It is full of suspense and full of mystery. You won't want to put it down. You are not giving the book justice when you compare it to the Davinci Code.

To make it short and sweet the book is about a young Australian woman, she is asked to find out the mysteries of the book, called the Haggadah. As she does the research she finds different things in the book such as a feather, hair, blood and other things. The book goes back and forth in time. First to present day Bosnia then goes back to the 1400. One of the mysterious objects is in the book is explained. The chapter then is told how that mystery got in the book. Then it goes back again to present day. Where Hannah has her own problems. How the story connects to the others stories makes this book a wonderful read.

I thought the story was quite different then any book I read. I liked Geraldine Brooks unique style of writing.

I will tell more of the story when the book contest is over. But who ever wins the book will absolutely love it. You will appreciate it even more if you are Jewish.


If you want to know more about the Haggadah you will find more information on my other blog, Jewish Rantings. There are Jewish links there also. If you are interested.

But For Now Good Luck!!!

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Is this what snow looks like. I have not seen snow for at least four years. Remember in my last post, I told you they were expected snow. We never got a drop of it. They cancelled class and the next day a two hour delay. Well today they did not close any schools down on the Grand Strand. It was cold for us down here of 19 degrees- B-RR, B-RR that is cold. And we actually this time around get snow flurries. It did not last long maybe an hour and then the snow melted. But we actually did see a dusting this time around. All of us get giddy about this. Now it is suppose to get cold again tonight and my son, David tells me again snow. We will have to see if we have school tommorrow or a late start. The reason they do close everything down is first of all we are not eqipted for this weather we do not have snow plows and sand.. Only the airport and the county can not use it.

Now my good news for you readers that are wondering how I did. Ready for the drum roll. I did do well. I passed with a 88 on my first A/P test. I made some stupid mistakes. I will know next time. What happened was she asked the question and they were multiple choice. You really have to read the answers. I must have gotten 3 wrongs for not reading the question right and analyzing the questions too much. Example, how stupid I knew this one. To make water how many molecules make water?
1) 2 hydrogen atoms and 1 oxygen atom
2) 1 hydrogen atom and 2 oxygen atoms
3) 2 hydrogen molecules and 1 oxygen molecules
4) 1 hydrogen molecules and 2 oxygen molecules

Of course the answer was 3. How stupid. I just answered without thinking there would not be trick questions. Anyway I am sure there will another test and I will make sure this doesn't happen again.

I have been taking classes for Medical Coding that I started last semester. I decided I really did not want to do that. I realized I used to be a nurse and I let my license lapse over 10 yrs. ago. Medical Coding is too distant for me. I love the medical field. I always loved health teaching. So I changed my major from Medical Coding/ Clerical Medical Assistant and I am adding Nursing. I did so well last semester I decided all this would be is a review but somethings like Medical Technology has changed. So not everything would be old. I would learn some new things. But I must be nuts. It took me till middle age to decide to get back into it. I took it for granted my Nursing license.

He's Coming Home By Next Week

This does not make any sense. My son made it for 8 entire weeks. He made the demands of boot camp. Learning to make a bed, iron shirts, learn to listen and respect of naval officers. He left for Great Lakes in Illinois from Myrtle Beach SC on April 12th.  It was hard for him as well as for me. The military controlled when they were allowed to make phone calls. It was terrible because I never knew when he called.  Close to the end of boot camp he was told there would be a delay in PIR for a week. They found out he had a medical condition. They were needed to recieve paper work then they would waive his medical condition and he would graduate. After a week I recieve a call he would have his PIR on 6/11, 

David was told by his recruiter to keep quiet about his ADHD. He was told if it doesn't come up there is not a reason to tell. But, David was having some problems in the beginning and then toward the end he was finally getting it.

David told me he was able to graduate and then go onto Groton Connecticut for Sub School. Great I thought I was just sad that I could not go to his graduation and wait to see him when he comes home in September.  I was content knowing my brother and my father went to his graduation. He even recieved a ribbon for markmanship and was able to carry the flag for his division.  That tells you how much this meant to him. 

I was proud of him. This meant more to him than high school.  He has matured and proud of his accomplishments. He was also sick the entire week before graduation but he did it. He went through the test of battlestations. He did it, great job David. The entire weekend was with the family with a cold.
I expected him to leave Groton Connecticut on Tuesday. I was terribly upset because I had thought he would let me know at least that he got there. He was still sick. He did not call me.  I only found out on Facebook that he was still in Chicago. I thought he was just sick. Later I found out the real story. They were investigating his medical records.  But, it does not make sense let him graduate. They should have not let him through and graduate until they had all the information.  He must have fell through the cracks.

I was having a difficult time when he was growing up with a single parent without a father. He was just a rebellious kid and having some problems. I took him for some conselling never realizing they would say he was depressed and anxious.  This was just typical teenage rebellion nothing else. The navy would straighten him out. Not thinking this would follow him. He did not and either did I that they gave him this diagnosis. After he graduated high school he was in control of his emotions, not difiant. He stopped taking Concerta, and he was fine. The sad thing was he was not able to find a job and was mopping around.  Most teens would do the same thing too. He was looking forward to leaving for boot camp and do something with his life.  He does not have depression it was just the situation he was in. The medical people they are quick to jump at anything and call it a diagnosis.

Now he is waiting to be separated. I never heard of someone being a sailor for a week and then separated. Once you graduate you go on.  This is just too bad. He will be leaving the navy in a week. Would you believe he is considered a military veteran even for a few days. He is not looking for the benefits he wants to serve his country.

The problem in the navy that they are trying to get rid of navy service men.  There are too many and I think any little thing they want to get rid of people. This is just a excuse.

I have contacted our Congressman Henry Brown in SC.  It does not look to good though. I stated my case and if it is determined that they can do something they will.  This is just hard because he does not have depression just a rebellious teenager that has worked out his problems and taken a little longer to mature.

David Coming Home

David has been away for boot camp since April 12th.  I am very proud of him what he has accomplished. Making the bed, ironing, listening to his superiors, etc. It has been very emotional for me. After the first phone call there isn't any communication for about three weeks. The letters are with held for three weeks.
Finally the first letter came I was thrilled.

Each phone call I recieved from David I missed. The first one I was still in the process of exams. I had to go to school for something. Of all things I left my cell phone at home.  The Navy decides when the recruits can call not the other way around. Each time he did call I was either at work or I left the phone somewhere.

After about a months I started to recieve phone calls from him.  He was upbeat. Said boot camp was tough and nerve wracking but afer the third week it was getting easier. My son has never been away from me. This I am sure was a different experience. He had to learn to depend on himself. And no excuses.

Then somehow the last week before Battlestations something happened.  David was delayed for PIR. David has never learned to stand up for himself.  Went to a counselor for some guidance.  They found out he had ADHD.  He never disclosed the " moment of truth" to them he had ADHD.  This was not the reason for disqualification from the navy. We later found out he could still be in the military for this. 

His recruiter told him not to say anything.  David did not know any better. He thought that the recruiter was wiser and knew what he was talking about. He was just excited to go in that he was not thinking of the consequences. Because eventually someone is going to find out your medical issues.are. 

Last year he was mopping around the house and I was concerned like any mother would be. So, I did not think about the consequences of taking him to a counselor.  The counselor is not a doctor. He only saw my son once. He is a counselor goes by the name of Mr. not Dr. in front of his name. He diagnosed him with depression and anxiety. \

David only saw this counselor once. You don't diagnose someone the first time with depression. I used to be a psychiatric nurse. I do know how that works. You can not diagnosis someone at the first visit. You have to see them a few times.  Besides Clinical depression is amount of time, not a short period.

Through all this David had PIR, which is a navy graduation. This means he graduated boot camp and is a navy sailor.  He made it this is so ridiculous. I can see when he is a recruit but he graduated.

He only did what the recruiter told him to do.  But the navy won't see it that way playing devils advocate. You knew it was lying at the moment of truth. You should have told them. David has always been in a sheltered life he did not think about it. He just thought I am going to make something of my life. I will do something that is important and serve my country.

This is a three fold situation that makes it complicated. He with held information about his ADHD. The depression and anxiety which is the truth he did not know about.  The recruiter never said have you seen a counselor for counseling. If he did I am sure David would have said something.  The navy said they could have waived the ADHD, but not all this.

The navy will also say that David has his own mind he knew he was lying. It is just tough. He is going to be separated from the navy. This is a tough break for him. He will not even be getting a honorable discharge. Within a year he can go back to the recruiter and re-enlist and a medical doctor can clear him.

I was hoping he could get a psychiatric evaluation could help him prove he does not have depression. But he is fighting the with holding information.  How do you fight the navy, when they always say no excuses. 

My son and I were in the same room when he said don't say anything. But it is our word against he's. If there was someone else in the room that heard that. That would help. But, what are they going to do. Slip him through by allowing him to stay because what the recruiter told him. 

I don't think that will happen. Do you know how many recruiters tell recruits that. If they allow my son to do this. How many others will claim the same thing.  I hate to say this is a no win situation.  Because he still with held information. It is just sad that he listened and believed the recruiter.

Now David realizes that all the recruiter wanted was his commission. Nothing else.

I went to the congressman of SC, Henry Brown. But I did not know the exact facts. When I went he wanted a brief statement. I gave him a 2 page detail. Because now I realize after exactly what I could have said. Giving alot of excuses.

I then went to the recruiter and they said there is nothing David can do. Except wait till he is discharged. The recruitment station seems not to know much about their recruits and the system. They are there to do a job and get recruits. That is it. Not if you ask a specific question. Right now I have a bad taste in my mouth about the navy.  The military is there to do a job. A darn good one.  But, sometimes I think they should weigh the circumstances, and investigate.

David is meeting a lawyer today.  The lawyer wants a statement. I am not sure if the navy lawyer is on David's side. You know when you read these things about navy. The navy is going to protect themselves.
The navy has a interest to protect the navy not my son.  But I hope I am wrong.

David I imagine is coming home most likely this weekend or next week sometime.  The good thing is which I think also. This is not a waste. David was able to mature and grow up. This kind of envoirment would have been good for him. Because people with ADHD do well with structure.

A Jewish Author Takes Home the Prize

The Booker Prize was announced yesterday for a author, that lives in England and the British Isles.  The Booker Prize website, has information about the winners of the short list and the long list and their books.

I am happy to post about the winner. The author is Jewish, yes you heard right a Jewish author won the prize.

  He has also written, previously, in 2003 "Kalooki Nights".  
The new novel,  Finkler Question was just published on Tuesday in the U.S.

  Since winning, the Booker Prize there is a lot of buzz out there. I can't recommend it as yet. I have not read it. But one of my blogging pals,  Marie, from Boston Bibliophile is reading it. I can't wait for her
 post .

I am going to, not walk but run to get this book. It is nice to hear a Jewish author to get recognition occasionally.   And, yes this book is about the Jewish experience in England.  I also heard that it is funny too.

Sarah's Key: The Movie Review

Sarah's Key, the movie was adapted by the novel from the same name. I was not sure what to expect. All I knew was it happened in France during WW2. Our book club read and discussed the book. Unfortunately, I never read it, I was busy with school.

This is not a straight narrative. I now understand why other people beside Jews want to see this movie.  It is a mystery of what happens to Sarah and her brother.

The movie, is about a family rounded up in France. Which is true. Not, German but the French government rounded up Jews and held them in a colosium to be transported to work camps. Sara convinces her mother to let her brother stay in a closet and not come out till they come back.  Sara thought she was doing the right thing, not realizing they would not be back for weeks, or months even. Sara escapes with another fellow prisoner to go back and get her brother from the closet.

Her friend and her are taken in by a husband and wife. Unfortunately, her friend dies of diptheria.
Sara goes back to the apartment where her brother was hidden.The family that lives there lets her in with hesitation.  What she finds in the closet will tear her up for the rest of her life.

Then the story goes forward to present time. A journalist finds out about the little piece of french history, that has been hidden. She digs more into the story. She finds out that by coincidence her husband's family were the tenants that were in the apartment. She feels so guilty about this.  Because she and her husband are renovated the apartment to live there.

The journalist keeps digging to find out what happened to Sara afterward. You will have to see the movie to see the conclusion.

My thoughts of the movie, I enjoyed it. I would sell it as a mystery, not a holocaust movie. The way most holocaust movies are done, this was not typical.

  I think that is why Sara's Key came here to Myrtle Beach, SC. Most independent movies don't come here. I was surprised when my girlfriend told me it came.

If you are looking to see a new bit of holocaust history fused with mystery, then I would recommend it.

Sipping From the Nile






Sipping From The Nile
By Jean Naggar


 I was wondering, why would I be interested in a wealthy Egyptian Jewish family? of course, I am Jewish but why else?  There isn't any thing out of the ordinary. There wasn't any abuse, or financial crisis, there isn't any psychological, drug, or alcohol, or rape, incest.

  So, why write this book? Or was it a  legacy to leave for her children. They would be the only ones that would connect to her memoir. Because her story seemed to be what her children, and grandchildren would be interested, not the general reader.  But, once she leaves childhood and grows into the teenage years, and adulthood, you become immersed, and flooded(into the Nile) with emotions especially toward the end.

  Jean Naggar, was raised in a very prestigious, privileged  family, with great wealth. Did you know that the Jewish Egyptian's were the wealthiest people in the middle east( interesting)?
 She comes from a long line of Sephardic Jews from Italy, on one side, and the Middle East on the other. She writes extensively, about both sides of the family. It becomes a bit tedious.

Jean is born to privilege she travels to different places, and goes abroad to Manchester England to boarding school.  She talks about her grand home, and the maids, and the help that take care of the home.  I enjoyed reading about her Aunt Helen and her grandmother's ( grand matriarchs of the family) 

I wondered, this story can't just be tedious about growing about and talking only about herself, and the riches that surround her. She keeps talking about herself and her family. But, it does go with the story because, her family is tightly knit. I would have liked her to write about her friends, and experiences, Egyptian life, less about herself and her family.

I think as a young girl, I was thinking she in a fairy land. You remember when you were growing up you idolized your parents, and your parents could do no wrong. Everything they said, was law and you believed them. She was wearing rose colored glasses.  This is how I took her memoir as a child until she grew up, and discovered the other world.

Then in 1956, the Suez Canal Crisis took shape. The British, and the French colonized Egypt for years. In 1956,Britain, France, and Israel tried to take control of the Suez Canal. Because Egypt would not allow Israel to use the canal.  There was bombing by Israel, Britain, and France.

  When this happened, Egypt made conditions terrible for the Jewish Egyptians. They had no other alternative but to leave.  After, Israel became a independent state, 1948.   The Jews of Egypt were treated differently. The German's influenced the Middle east to treat Middle Eastern Jews with hatred, and not to tolerate them. This started anti-Semitism in the middle east.

During the fall out of 1956, there was rioting in the streets. Jews had no access to their money, and their finances, to their homes, trying to get a visa was impossible. Some of Jean's family did stay on, but did eventually left.

I enjoyed reading her experience when she came to the United States. How did she ever fit in with the rest of American society? How did she fit into the Ashkenazi Jews vs. Sephardic Jews? That is interesting.

 Because, when I moved to Myrtle Beach there is a Ashkenazi community and Sephardic community. I always thought if I was Jewish you can fit anywhere. Not true, when I was go to a Israeli restaurant, or Chabad which are mainly Israeli's they treat you differently. I am sure it was the same way for Jean.

I enjoyed reading about her first time in her American kitchen, cooking a traditional Egyptian cookie. I had to look it up online, be hold it was on youtube. I wish we had acess to multiethnic foods here as much as in New York City( my home), but it is not to be. It would have been nice to get the traditional cookie for our book club on Monday.

Jean, writes beautiful prose about her adult life in the United States, and her older years as a grandmother. As you read this, it stirs up your own memories. Thinking about your children, and grandchildren if you are one.

Once you get past the family line, and she writes about the Suez it is all uphill. Many times I wanted to toss it aside, and thought I can't do that. I am the one that recommended Sipping From the Nile. I am making everyone else read this, it is only fair I read it.  I am glad I did not abandon it and kept reading. My book test is usually 50-100 pages. It took a bit longer, but worth the read.

I was not expecting to change my view of the book. I imagined it was going to be a terrible book review. But, thank g-d the experience turned around for me.   If you are interested in cultures, and history, you will enjoy reading.

Jean will be calling into our book club this coming week. I am looking forward to chatting with her. I would like to thank Wiley, in the first place for getting in touch with me. He asked me to review this marvelous book. then arranging for the books to be shipped for our book club, and arranging a chat with Jean.

For added pleasure, I made the book interactive. Which may be the way of digital books. I made links to you tube, for the Suez Canal Crisis, and when she was describing how she made a traditional Egyptian Cookie. This enhanced the book. Some day that may be the wave of the future and selling digital books.